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When I say Belief System, I mean, how you believe the world works, how you work. I don’t mean any particular faith or religion, although, as a matter of course, religion also deals with ideas about how the world works, but there is more to this idea.

As an example of a belief, you may say, “I cannot relax before I have cleaned my house”. This would be a belief, because, obviously, you can relax, and then clean the house, or even clean the house in a relaxed manner. But until we question that belief, that is how the world works for us.

Now to be fair. this was a simple belief, and simply looking at it, or questioning it, would be enough to change it. But sometimes, or rather often, you will find that it’s not enough. Just looking at it won’t change it, even when one sees the futility or silliness in it. That then means that there is another belief that says that the first belief cannot, or should not change. So then, we would have to figure out what that belief is. And if that second supporting belief does not change, then there is a third belief, protecting the second one and so on.

So very often you will find that the belief system is in fact a system of beliefs supporting each other, layered like an onion, reinforcing one and another.

The idea is that to have an physical experience you would need a belief. Something that defines the experience as something. A description of how the world works or is. And even negative beliefs can work for you, but are then often experienced negatively. So most would find it most enjoyable to redefine those definitions, or beliefs into something positive.

What will stop you dead in your tracks though, is when you have two or more opposing beliefs. Like, “To paint, sing or dance is the meaning of life”, and “You cannot make a living as an artist, singer or dancer”. So if you then want to be any of those, but don’t want to be poor, you have effectively stopped yourself dead in the tracks, and the one way to move, is to change one or both of them. The first step in doing that, is to find out what those beliefs or definitions about how you think reality works are.

There are numerous ways of going about this, but all of them requires self honesty. One way is to simply ask yourself “What would I have to believe is true, on order to want to choose this experience, or behavior?”

Now some other ideas about this before we go deeper into how to change them.

By motivation, you will always move toward what you perceive as pleasurable, and away from what you perceive as painful. There is no exceptions to this, it’s hardwired into every brain. So the question then is, when you do something that is not pleasurable, it has to mean that you believe that not doing so is even more painful then to do so. What is that belief?

For instance, you believe that smoking is harmful and you want to quit, yet you smoke. That would mean that there is something you believe would be even more painful that will happen if you quit. In that case, if you continued, you could have withdrawal symptoms, or you’d be afraid of being short tempered with people you love. Now, in this example, that short temperedness would be another belief that triggers, and would not really have anything to do with the smoking. Another one could be that you believe smoking relaxes you, and of course it will, because you get tense from the withdrawal of not smoking.

At any rate, as long as you have two or more opposing beliefs, you cannot move. The best, in my opinion, is to have all beliefs positively aligned. Since that will give you an positive experience of life.

‘Negative’ beliefs are beliefs that are separating, fragmenting, isolating or contracting, while ‘positive’ beliefs are joining, including, expanding and integrating. Very often you will find that negative beliefs are hard to change, because they are tied to survivability. In other words, changing a negative belief will be experienced as choosing to die, and very few people would choose that. They would only choose that, if that seemed like less painful then the alternative. You hate your job, but if you quit, you will die. You have responsibilities, people to take care of, payments to pay, and if you had no money, you would die. That is a belief, tied into survivability, and is often very hard to change.

There are some other very simple ways out of this “feeling trapped” situation. One of them would be to have an Overriding belief that says “Beliefs are easy to change”.. and then, that will be your experience. Another nice overriding positive belief to have could be, “If one can do it, I can do it” or, “I can do anything I want” (of course, you would then have to want it)..

 

To recognize a belief being negative or positive, you could use this as a helpful reminder:

POSITIVGearHead v002E SYNCHRONICITY REINFORCEMENT
(Positive belief system)
Inspiration turns into growth turns into inspiration turns into growth etc.
It gives: Choice and freedom
It makes you expand

NEGATIVE SYNCHRONICITY REINFORCEMENT
(Negative belief system)
Ideas of justification, rationalization, rejection, rewards, projecting or paranoia.
Focuses on: Survival, which gives no choice
It makes you contract

 

 

To me, any perception of how the world works is a belief and can be changed by definition. Even the sun coming up in to morning. But there are some beliefs we have all agreed to abide by for this physical experience. Like the Sun, like gravity, and the like. Although I believe it can be changed, I think it would be highly unlikely that there would be many if any that would do so. Simply because it’s so deeply ingrained, and reinforced by everyone and everything in reality. I even believe that Enlightenment as experienced in physicality is a belief. The ultimate positive inclusive belief, where your definition of yourself is “I am all”, and there is no other belief to oppose it. (of course said very roughly, vaguely)

Still, with all this said, finding these opposing or negative beliefs might be tricky sometimes. In order to assist with that, I have made available tools that everyone can use.

One way is to use the VAK way.
Another way could be using the Android app I made.
Or simply starting to write it down, as you go deeper.

(belief-emotions-thought)

 

Erik Vikersveen