More often than not, you experience fear of your own fears, rather than the actual fear itself. Let us take worry for example, and break it down. Worry is a state of anxiety caused by the idea that what you fear will come to be. Now taking this further, your worry is just an idea of what you might feel like if something you fear comes to be. It is an assumption, nothing more. An assumption that causes discomfort because you are putting yourself in a vibrational match to your fear, trying to make yourself feel ready for what might happen, and not be taken by surprise and thus then losing control.
You think you are preparing yourself to face your fears by making yourself comfortable with them, spinning the worst case scenario in your mind over and over again until you become numb, and actually start implementing the belief that this is how things will happen, and if they they unfold in another direction you would be in for a nice surprise anyways, so it’s all good. People who do this like to call themselves realists or cynics. There is nothing brave about doing this, and there is nothing that will prepare you and secure your sense of control by implementing this belief or keeping it. Why? Because you never actually face your fears that way. It is the mind level that spins these scenarios, but you don’t really feel them at all.
If you are in a state of fearing the fear, try this simple exercise:
- Close your eyes and imagine a detailed chain of events that will lead you through the worst possible idea of the unfoldment of events. And I really mean worst.
- Take it as far as you can, until there is nothing more left to imagine, until there is nothing left to lose, until you have no control over your own life whatsoever!
- Explore this parallel reality as deep as you can, as real as you can, no need to go into gruesome details for those of you with graphic imaginations, but just feel those things happening, how they make you feel when they start, while they are happening and when they are gone.
- It is very important to do this thoroughly and to the end, until the thing you fear comes to pass and goes away, because the mind level likes to hover about in the same never-ending scenario, getting stuck in the idea of perpetual suffering, rather than exploring it to the end. You might think that this is not a good way of exploring things, because it will attract such reality, but in fact, it is a valuable insight that you can get, with a beginning, middle and end of that story and you only need to do it once, as opposed to keeping your mind level in a loop of regurgitating the same thing over and over again without any conclusion or moving on, thus then being stuck in a vibration that is creating the reality you don’t want and beliefs that are not beneficial to you.
If you are actually willing to do this, play with this, explore it, I promise you, you will find that at the end, it wasn’t as bad as you though it would be. If you wholeheartedly dedicate yourself to this exercise, you will not find anything that was remotely as scary as your fear of being in fear, which you created in the first place. If you want to face your fears instead of frantically trying to shift your focus to something positive with mechanical affirmations and mindless attempts of reprogramming your mind by repetition, consider doing this, because it will make you go through that which you fear and be done with it once and for all, so that this particular scenario will never need to come to pass, as you have already “lived it through” in your own imagination and gained the valuable insight that your fear was much scarier than the actual thing happening.